Picking Your First Dance
Picking your first dance can be extremely easy for some couples but for others it can be a stressful decision. A list of songs being vetoed by your future husband/wife and the thought you will never pick the perfect song you both agree on! We would like to give you some tips and help point you in the right direction!
Lyrics
Our opinion, don’t over think it! It can be a huge task finding a song that has lyrics which resonate with you both. On top of that the song may not be one you are too crazy about, but it has to be romantic lyrics so you picked it. This can sometimes be the wrong approach.
We would suggest finding a song that you both love and the lyrics should come second. It doesn’t matter too much if the words aren’t all lovey-dovey but is far more important the song is one you both like and are comfortable to take to the dance floor with!
Don’t get us wrong, the song can still have a lot of meaning to you both. For example a song that was playing in the bar when you first met, the song you shared your first kiss to, the one that was playing when you popped the question. The lyrics of the song don’t have to be why you picked it, a special moment together with the song can be just as or more meaningful.
A great option, pick your favourite song! Lyrics or romantic connections out the window! Do you both like similar bands or artists? Have you been to gigs together to see your favourite acts? Maybe this is the route to go down. Both love Stevie Wonder, Beyonce or The Jacksons? Look through their song lists and see if you agree on one together.
It Doesn’t Have To Be A Ballad
A large percentage of couples chose a ballad for their first dance and that’s great if that’s what works best for you both. But why not do the opposite? Having an upbeat song can be a great way to start the night off. It makes the transition from first dance to party time seamless!
A great example, we had the ‘Time Wrap’ for a first dance! The couple loved the song and wanted to do something a bit different. They didn’t want to bother with having the couple up for a verse and chorus then invite everyone up. We got all the guests up and into position before we started, even the venue staff were getting involved! It went down a storm and had all the guests up and ready to party from the get go!
What People Think
What if people don’t know the song? My friend hates that song! Will my guest want to get up for our choice?
Bottom line, your first dance is YOURS! You’re not sure if your guests will know the song or will have heard of it? Who cares! As long as you are both happy with your choice that is all that matters.
For example if you pick an Oasis song, but your friends really don’t like Oasis it shouldn’t change your decision at all! Your friends will be happy for you and will get up to join you, it’s your day and all about the two of you.
There has been many occasions where we haven’t heard of the song before and we see that as a good thing. It’s always great to be introduced to new bands and artists!
We recently got asked to play ‘Pushing Up Daises’ by Brother Osborne for a wedding. None of us in that band had heard of it before but loved it and it was fun learning a country song as we don’t get to play country very often.
No Rules!
At the end of the day the best piece of advice we can give you is there are no rules in picking your first dance! Pick a ballad from Ed Sheeran, or a rock song from AC/DC or even Sandstorm by Darude! You can be influenced by other people or you can completely make your own decision. The big question is ‘Are you both happy with your chosen song?’. If you are happy then we are happy to learn it for you!
We hope these few tips can help you if your stuck on what to pick! It can be a little stressful going back and forth between the two of you and both not wanting to compromise. But the perfect song for you is out there, you just have to be honest with one another in what route you want to go down. Whether it is a ballad or upbeat, rock or pop, new or old we are sure you’ll get there in the end!
Some honourable mentions:
All Night Long - Lionel Richie
Happy Together - The Turtles
Lose Yourself To Dance - Daft Punk
All The Small Things - Blink 182
Let’s Dance - David Bowie
I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing - Aerosmith
Everlong - Foo Fighters
My Girl - The Temptations